Yearly Archives:: 2017
These days, the rules of who pays for what when it comes to a wedding are a little more in the grey area than in years past…for quick and easy reference, SB&G has provided a short and sweet list of new wedding etiquette so you know what to expect from whom!
Old Wedding Etiquette Rules: Wedding and reception expenses for a first marriage were traditionally the sole responsibility of the bride’s family. When paying, they get to determine the size and style of the wedding and reception. The groom’s family my offer to share in the cost of the reception, and the bride’s family may accept in order to accommodate a larger wedding.
New Wedding Etiquette Rules: Both families may divide the expenses as their budget allows, or each family can contribute a set amount to the total expenses. This may be supplemented by the bride and groom. As the average age of couples rises for marriage, many working duos today host and pay for their entire wedding and celebration themselves, and issue the invitation for their personalized wedding on their own. For encore weddings, the couple is always responsible for the costs.
The Bride’s Family Pays for:
-Church and reception site rental
-Cake, catering and beverages for the reception
-Invitations, announcements and stationary
-Services of a wedding consultant
-The bridal attire and trousseau
-Photography for the engagements, bridal portraits, ceremony and reception
-Flowers for the church, reception and the bridesmaids
-Corsages for special helpers
-Music at the ceremony and reception
-Limousine for the bride and family to the church, and cars for transportation
-Lodging for out-of-town bridesmaids or arrangements with friends
-Security and insurance
The Groom or His Family Pay for:
-The bride’s engagement and wedding rings
-Officiant’s fee and travel expenses
-Bride’s bouquet and going-away corsage
-Corsages for the mothers and grandmothers
-Boutonnieres, gloves and ties for the men of the wedding party
-Wedding gift for the bride
-Limousine expense leaving reception — or for the day
-Wedding night accommodations
-Gifts for the best man and groomsmen
-Shipment of the wedding gifts to the couple’s home
-Lodging or arrangements for out-of-town groomsmen
-Groom’s wedding ring
-Gifts for the bride’s attendants
-Thank you gift for parents
-Bridesmaid’s luncheon (optional event)
-Engagement parties may be hosted by each set of parents or friends
-Groom’s family or engaged couple may co-host or host the entire wedding event
-The groom’s family or friends usually give the bachelor dinner or party
Who pays for what for a wedding might be just the first of many questions that come up when planning your day. Peruse our BLOG for other advice columns, and of course, lots of inspirational eye-candy!
If you are getting married in NC, we’d also love for you to check out our Preferred Vendors. SB&G has been the trusted wedding planning resource for our region for 30 years and has the most extensive VENUE GUIDE spanning from the NC Triad, across the Greater Triangle and to the Coast. Our region has great options for DESTINATION WEDDINGS too!
Courtney & Mario
Courtney and Mario’s sophisticated and elegant wedding at the Raleigh Marriott City Center was everything they envisioned and more. The black and white color theme with accents of gold only added to the elegance of the night. All the aspects of the celebration were chose to align with their classic theme and the affair was straight out of an old hollywood film.
They couple met on a dating site and knew it was something special between the two of them. The bride said “Mario proposed on my birthday at dinner with my sister, cousin, and friends. It was a very “Mario” proposal..short and sweet. He got down on one knee and said five words, ‘Will you marry me, baby?’ ”
The theme of the wedding was black and white sophistication because those are Courtney’s favorite colors. They added accents of gold to further the elegance of the affair. The bridesmaids and groomsman wore classic black dresses and tuxedos.
The Wedding Party
The couple decided to go with In His Image Photography to capture their special day in a classic manner. The bride shared, “Dajuan is awesome to work with and a perfectionist. He has an eye for capturing great moments and images. All of our guests and friends who have seen our pictures continue to comment on how awesome they look!”
The Ceremony at Raleigh Marriott City Center
Courtney and Mario decided to have their wedding reception at the Raleigh Marriott City Center. Not only is the ballroom the perfect venue for a classically elegant affair, but the convenience for guests is also a huge benefit for any couple having a lot of out of town guests.
Fresh Affairs completed the elegance of the wedding with their classically beautiful floral arrangements. Courtney said “In conversations with Lyn, I told him I wanted to keep the flowers very clean with all tones of white and he definitely delivered on that request.”
Elana Walker of Elana Walker Events planned Courtney and Mario’s special day. “Elana was great in helping us make decisions along the way and advising us on vendors that she thought would help us achieve our overall vision for the day,” shared Courtney.
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Roses of pink and coral are weaved within a garland of greenery by Tre Bella Flowers to create sweetly sophisticated table runners for rustic wood tables and chairs. This table is perfect for celebrating and conversing while being just frilly enough to add your favorite flowers and colors with a natural look. The complementary bouquet has a freshly gathered garden touch.
The table runner ran all the way onto the floor to create a lush and romantic scene. With various different romantic blooms and floating candle votives, the table could not have been more beautiful and full of romance. You could easily replace the pinks and corals used by here with the color scheme of your wedding!
With the chair rentals being on the plain side with their natural wood finish, Tre Bella decided to add greenery and florals to the back of the chairs to compliment the florals of the rest of the table. They created picture perfect seating arrangements!
Tre Bella designed a perfect bridal bouquet using the same blooms that were in the table runner. With the various green leaves and mixture of pink, corals and white flowers, the bouquet had a romantic garden feel to it that complimented the entire inspiration of the shoot.
SB&G Preferred Vendors
Floral Design: Tre Bella Flowers | Rentals: American Party Rentals | China & Glassware: Kate Spade from Belk | Place Cards: Calligraphy by Jessica Yee, The Oblique Pen | Gown: Hayley Paige Blush from Tre Bella Bridal | Jewelry: Bailey’s Fine Jewelry | Hair & Makeup: Bella Trio Day Spa | Venue : The Merrimon-Wynne House | Photographer: Katherine Miles Jones Photography
Father of the Bride
Since Father’s Day is just around the corner (this Sunday!) – we thought we’d dedicate this Friday post to ideas that will make the Father of the bride feel special on his daughter’s wedding day; to show him that no matter how old you are, or who comes into your life, you’ll always be his little girl.
1. Give Him A Little Gift
Some of our favorite tokens on a wedding day are small gifts given from the bride to her father, like an embroidered handkerchief, personalized cufflinks, or a special photo opportunity. Your father will absolutely love the thought that went behind whatever gift you choose.
Photo by Fancy This Photography
2. Give Him A Bear Hug When He Gives You Away
Giving their child away at a wedding may be one of the hardest moments for a father. The symbol that passing their child to their future husband holds is emotionally tough for any dad. Let your dad know he’s still your number 1 guy with a big hug and kiss before you join your fiancé at the altar. A little display of your love and appreciation for him will make him feel so honored and may make the moment a little easier on them.
3. Let Him Surprise You With A Father/Daughter Dance Song
While you may want to be a part of every decision in your wedding planning, give your dad the opportunity to help! Let him surprise you with a song to have your father/daughter dance to. Not only will it mean so much to him, but it could also be a ton of fun to see what he comes up with!
4. Write Him a Thank You Note
As the years go by, handwritten thank you notes have become less and less customary. Nothing shows how thankful you really are more than words from the heart. Put your pen to paper and thank your father for everything he’s done for you for your entire life. It will almost definitely bring tears to his eyes.
Give your dads a huge hug this weekend, ladies, and Happy Father’s Day!
Gabie & Rob
Everyone knows that you can’t resist a guy in a band. Gabie learned that first hand with her now husband Rob. Though they attended the same high school, it wasn’t until years later when she coincidentally ended up where his band was playing, that they re-met one another and immediately hit it off. Fast forward to May of 2017 – the couple tied the knot with a charming Raleigh wedding with a natural theme at Saint Mary’s Chapel with a casual reception that put emphasis on a good time at The Fairview Raleigh.
During a break in a major storm that had hit the area, Rob insisted on going for a walk with Gabie. He said he wanted to see something new that was at the Rose Garden. With their dog, Olivia, in hand the two went for a long walk around the garden. Rob pulled her to a bench and said “so I have something to ask you” and got down on one knee with the ring that he had designed with his grandmothers diamond. Gabie replied, “you didn’t ask me anything but YES!”
Getting Ready For Ceremony at Saint Mary’s Chapel in Raleigh
The bride wore a Vera Wang gown that was passed down in her family. While she altered it to add lace and fit properly, with the help of Cordella Bridal, it maintained its natural classic beauty. She paired the look with a classic up-do hairstyle and natural makeup by Parlor Blow Dry Bar and beautiful jewelry from Bailey’s Fine Jewelry.
The bridesmaids wore stunning midnight blue Show Me Your Mumu maxi gowns. While the couple kept their color scheme all neutral colors, the blue of their gowns were the one major pop of color for the wedding.
The grooms party wore traditional black and white tuxedos with the groom, Rob, wearing a white jacket to stand out from the crowd.
The couple said “I Do” at Saint Mary’s Chapel in Raleigh, NC. It is a stunningly classic chapel in the North Carolina area that is highly sought after for traditional vows. With its old world charm and beautiful structure, there are few places in the area that can be compared to it.
The Reception at The Fairview Raleigh
The couple’s main vision was to ensure their wedding was an enjoyable and fun night to remember. The bride said her wish was to have people saying, “Wow, what a fun wedding full of love” and “that was totally Gabie and Rob.” They kept the decorations at a minimum with natural florals and hanging lights within The Fairview Raleigh, a new venue right outside of downtown with a beautiful view of the skyline.
Rob surprised Gabie by getting up with the band and performing one of their favorite songs, “Good Lovin’.” He had spent time practicing with the band before the wedding in order to shock his new bride and their guests!
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Photographer: Steve Exum Photography | Minister: Justin Morgan | Rehearsal Dinner: Humble Pie | Wedding Planner: Kristin Holland of Viva L’Event | Bridesmaids Jewelry: Gabrielle Jewelry | Bridesmaid Dresses: Show Me Your Mumu | Florist: Petal Pushers 3 | Cake: Ashley Cakes | Invitations: Reeves Engraving | Ceremony Musicians: Elegant Ensembles | Reception Music: Envision Band | Transportation: White Horse | Beverages: Pour | Calligrapher: Nancy Heathcote
The Art of Elegance
Beautiful flowers combined with an eye for design reminiscent of the Far East, but uniquely all-American in this two-tiered sculpted arrangement. University Florists artfully combines many NC native flowers with classic orchids and garden roses, achieving a timeless elegance. Get inspired for your wedding with this North Carolina elegant wedding floral inspiration photo shoot.
University Florists created a simple yet elegant tablescape with natural colors as a base and added a pop of brights with peach and coral roses within the arrangements. The rose gold candle votives added throughout the table in a symmetrical manner pulled together to create a romantic vision for the table.
The NC florist completed the wedding tablescape with beautifully delicate small vases placed on the center of each place setting that complimented the overall theme of the table.
The bride wore a uniquely classic Monique Lhuillier gown from Raleigh wedding dress studio, Alexia’s Bridal. The beautiful a-line satin skirt with lace details on the top perfectly paired with this elegant setting. The bridal bouquet was created with matching bright florals from the table arrangements. Pinks and coral roses were tied together with an elegant light green ribbon and could not have looked more stunning held by the bride.
Everything from the florals to the jewelry screamed “elegant” within this shoot. Bailey’s Fine Jewelry adorned the bride in simply classic jewels. It’s hard to decide which is more gorgeous, the beautiful spring colored bridal bouquet or the stunning halo diamond ring!
SB&G Preferred Vendors:
FLORAL DESIGN & CONTAINERS: University Florists | RENTALS: American Party Rentals | GOWN: Monique Lhuillier from Alexia’s Bridal | JEWELRY: Bailey’s Fine Jewelry | VENUE: The Merrimon-Wynne House | HAIR & MAKEUP: Bella Trio Day Spa | PHOTOGRAPHER: Katherine Miles Jones Photography
Planning the bachelorette party is one of the Maid of Honor’s most important pre-wedding responsibilities, but for some, it is also one of the most stressful. The bachelorette party conjures visions of Vegas nightclubs, but there really is no need to drag your crew across the country when there are so many local options to celebrate your upcoming nuptials here in NC’s Triangle Area.
Whether the bride-to-be prefers a late night out on the town, daytime brewery tours or a luxurious, relaxing spa day, Raleigh is full of swanky restaurants, fun group activities, and plush five-star spas. Here, we’ve put together some exciting ideas for your Raleigh bachelorette party.
Are you a brunching group? Raleigh may just be the place for you then! Head downtown and try some of the amazing establishments. Poole’s Diner, Seaboard 18, Beasley’s and Provenance all have amazing menus for your brunch needs. Chicken and Waffles are a must when down South!
Dinner and Drinks
Whether you are looking for a fancy or a more casual environment, there are plenty of amazing restaurant choices to choose from in the Raleigh, NC area. If you are on the hunt for a fancy dinner experience give Second Empire or Death & Taxes a try! Their menus are beyond incredible. Looking for a step more casual – head on over to Taverna Agora. Between their amazingly beautiful rooftop terrace and authentic Greek style cuisine, you may forget you are even in North Carolina!
Then after your meal head over for to The Architect Bar & Social House and have a drink in their secret bar hidden behind the bookshelf!
Photos via Taverna Agora Facebook and Death & Taxes Facebook (@kelseyhanrahanphoto)
Out on the Town
For a night out on the town the flourishing downtown areas has fabulous nightlife options, from delicious cocktail bars to dance clubs.
Then, for dancing in an upscale club setting, visit Glenwood South. Head to any of the many clubs in the neighborhood and dance the night away!
Maybe the bride-to-be is more interested in a quiet, relaxing day at the spa with her favorite group of girlfriends than a loud and crazy night out. Consider a weekend stay at the Umstead Hotel in Cary, right outside of Raleigh, and visit their luxurious spa for ultimate relaxation.
Check out the SB&G Beauty & Health page to get a breakdown of spas and salons – an afternoon at any of these locations is a great way to kick off any bachelorette party!
Unique Group Bachelorette Party Activities
For a classy, low key group outing, consider a tea party at our local venue that specialize in this service, The Umstead Hotel.
Another fun daytime activity is a group cooking class at Catering Works. They offer a variety of courses that can be made to fit your group — learn a new skill and add a signature dish to your cooking repertoire!
If your group wants to try their hand at something laid back yet fun, consider booking a Wine & Design course in Raleigh, where you and your girlfriends can enjoy basic painting instruction from local artists while chatting and sipping on your favorite bottle of vino. Don’t worry about your artistic experience (or lack thereof!) – Wine & Design caters to all skill levels.
For a fun daytime activity, think about taking a brewery tour. Raleigh, NC is full of options – including Big Boss, Raleigh Brewery Company, Trophy Brewing, LoneRider, Little City Brewing, – that all offer tours and events.
Or take your brews with a bit of adventure and take a ride on the Trolley Pub, a pedal-powered, pub-crawling trolley that can accommodate up to 14 people. Choose from a variety of tours featuring Raleigh’s best dinner spots, pubs, and breweries.
More of a wine group than beer? Check out Vita Vite, which is great for a flight of wine and a cheese plate to share.
The Triangle’s surrounding cities and towns are also hotspots for small, local wineries. Take your group on an afternoon adventure to tour the vineyard, get a behind-the-scenes peek at the process, and sample some delicious wine. We also have an urban winery in Morrisville – Chatham Hill Winery offers tastings and is even available for private events.
If you want to get a little more risque and break your bride-to-be out of her shell, a truly memorable outing would be a group pole dancing class. This is available at many local gyms, and there are also studios that specialize in it, such as Turn Me Loose Fitness near Brier Creek or Aradia Fitness in Cary.
Nerea & Richard
Nerea and Richard are avid travelers and adventurers who envisioned a minimalist and simple wedding that shared their love of world traveling. The Merrimon-Wynne House in Raleigh, NC served as the picture perfect venue for the beautiful couple. The bride and groom chose a neutral pallet that could be easily mixed and matched in all aspects of their wedding decor and attire.
Nerea and Richard met through a cycling club. They were set up on a bike ride together and the rest is history! Richard proposed to Nerea on a rooftop terrace in Bosphorous in Istanbul, Turkey.
Their soft neutral color scheme meshed stunningly with the venue’s southern charm. The couple fell in love with The Merrimon-Wynne House and the bride shared “they were the utmost of professionals and made everything incredibly easy.”
Minimalist Neutral Wedding at The Merrimon-Wynne House
The bride wanted her bridesmaids to feel comfortable and let them pick their own dresses while staying in a neutral color palette. “I wanted my bridesmaids to have the ultimate choice and flexibility when choosing their dresses. It worked out wonderfully and they all looked gorgeous,” shared Nerea.
With their neutral theme the bride and groom chose natural film photographer, Casey Rose Photography. The bride said, “Casey is the best! She’s not only a gifted photographer, but I feel lucky enough to consider her a friend. She made everyone feel at ease and natural.”
Travel Enthusiast Wedding Reception
The couple are world travelers and seek out adventure in their lives and wanted to incorporate this passion within their wedding. They had their tables named after places they have visited and their seating chart was a world map showing their travels.
Nerea is currently a helicopter pilot in the Army and teaching at West Point and Richard serves in the Army Reserves while also working with a non-profit along the Hudson River. Thank you both for your service!
SB&G Preferred Vendors
Planner: Martha Stilwell | Minister: Father Gerry Blaszczak | Rehearsal Dinner: The Stag’s Head | Gown: Aire/Rosa Clara | Hair & Makeup: Liz Perniciaro | Invitations: E-Vites | Musicians: Bunn DJ Company
Check out our previous real wedding at The Merrimon-Wynne House!
Wedding Reception Inspiration
This hunting themed design by The English Garden uses rich garnet colors in the flower design and linens from Party Reflections. The bride wears a daring and darling two-piece gown from Alexia’s Bridal and poses with her riding gear. A vintage bracelet and ring form Bailey’s Fine Jewelry and a burberry styled menu from One + Only Paper add distinctive details.
This spectacular chandelier from Get Lit Special Event Lightning was adorned in complementary garnet florals to bring life to the pergola that stood above the inspirational table. A mixture of colored and textured glassware from Party Reflections perfectly pairs with the floral arrangements from The English Garden.
Embrace the romance of this wedding pergola repurposed as an intimate wedding party table on the verdant lawn of The Merrimon-Wynne House. The English Garden themed this glorious table with a hunting club stately ambiance including crystal and fine china accents. They added a surprise mix of cultivated and wild flowers in rusty reds, antique greens and golds.
One + Only Paper created a burberry styled menu that paired impeccably with the garnet colored linens and floral arrangements. The collection of textured and colored glass and fine china all meshed beautifully to create this hunting inspired theme.
The English Garden created a bountiful bridal bouquet that perfectly coincided with the floral decor of the table and venue. With rusty reds, wild flowers, and beautifully arranged green leaves, this bridal bouquet was a piece of living art.
The bride wore a beautifully unique two-piece gown from Alexia’s Bridal. The dress was a fun take on a classic wedding look. Paired with beautifully vintage pieces from Bailey’s Fine Jewelry, this look was everything and more!
SB&G Preferred Vendors
FLORAL DESIGN & CONTAINERS: The English Garden | PERGOLA & CHANDELIER: Get Lit Special Event Lighting | RENTALS OF CHAIRS, GLASSWARE, FLATWARE & LINEN: Party Reflections | GOWN: Alexia’s Bridal | THEMED CHINA & JEWELRY: Bailey’s Fine Jewelry | MENUS & PLACE CARDS: One + Only Paper | VENUE: The Merrimon-Wynne House | PHOTOGRAPHER: Katherine Miles Jones Photography
You’re Engaged, Now What?
After the initial shock and excitement of becoming engaged dies down and it’s time to start planning you will probably be initially overwhelmed by how much there is to do and all the opinions coming in from everyone around you.
Pick a Date
This doesn’t have to be the exact date you end up on, but at least know what you and your fiancé are thinking about in terms of season or time of year. Depending on your venue, the exact date may change, but it’s important to know whether you absolutely do want to get married in the summer or absolutely will not choose to get married when there could be a chance of snow.
Pick a Setting
Do you know you want a beach wedding? Maybe you are your fiancé have only ever dreamt of getting married on a mountain top. Whatever the case may be, know ahead of time the scene in which you ideally want to say “I do.” This will help immensely when ultimately picking an exact venue. Need inspiration? Check out our blog for some of the most beautiful real weddings in the area! Our Instagram is also a fantastic place to get started!
Set Your Wedding Budget
It’s so important to know your budget before even deciding on a venue. Know the things that you can’t live without, the things that you would rather not live without, and the things that you can forgo for your wedding. This way you know where your money is allotted. Make sure you and your fiancé communicate and know the other’s opinions on likes and dislikes.
Decide What’s Most Important to You on Your Wedding Day
You might find when you begin planning that things are a little more expensive than you initially estimated. The average wedding in North Carolina is in the $25,000 range, but that includes all weddings and some that are very low budget. For a typical full service wedding reception, real averages are in the mid $30,000’s and up. That does not mean that you cannot achieve the wedding of your dreams on less- you just have to know where you are and are not willing to trim costs. Pick a handful of services that you want to splurge on – say, your wedding dress, photographer, food, flowers, or invitations. Budget those first, then take that into consideration when you are planning other areas.
Draft a Guest List
Use a Google Sheet and draft your guest list. Having a live document like this will allow you to share it with your fiancé, mother, father or anyone else that is helping you and that can help you down the line with addresses or that pesky uncle’s name you just can’t ever spell correctly. It’s important to have a general idea of how many people will be at your reception before you choose the venue. A good rule of thumb is to expect 80% attendance.
Consider Hiring a Wedding Planner
If you think a full service wedding planner or designer is for you, it is never to early to find this match. This person can help you define your style and vision and translate it to every element including the venue. Even if you end up just choosing a partial service package, it does not hurt to book them early and get your feedback on the big decisions. A planner will offer tips to maximize your budget as well, so an early consultation is key. If you are planning an NC wedding, check out the SB&G preferred wedding planners – all of them are incredible talented and trusted individuals.
Pick Your Reception Venue
Now that you know how much of your budget you can logically afford, shop around for venues. Southern Bride and Groom has an extensive list of trusted venues in the North Carolina Triangle Area! Schedule visits to a few of your favorite ones that fit within your budget, and pick from there. Now you have your venue and your date, Congratulations!
Ask Your Wedding Party
Now that you have the date and the location go ahead and ask your best friends to stand by your on your special day! Whether your wedding party is big or small, it doesn’t matter, choose what is right for you and your situation. Asking your wedding party early allows you a group of people to bounce ideas off of and ask advice from for your wedding planning.
Send Out Save The Dates
Some people recommend these go out a year, some 10 months, others even later – but even depending on the size of your guest list, location of the wedding, and personal preference, getting these out sooner rather than later never offended anyone.
Now relax for a moment and then get to the fun of finding your amazing vendors! Southern Bride and Groom is your trusted resource for the NC wedding vendor community!