Throwing a shower for the bride-to-be is a tradition that dates back to the 1800s. Over the years, the practices surrounding the event have gotten a bit muddled, so today we’re answering some of the most common questions about bridal shower etiquette.
Who Hosts the Shower?
Traditionally, a shower should not be hosted by the bride’s immediate relatives — such as her mother, future mother-in-law, or sister — since it would appear as if the family was trying to garner as many gifts as possible, though these guests can take on the role of co-host if necessary.
The maid of honor or the bridesmaids typically share the responsibility of throwing a shower for the bride-to-be, but these days, more brides and grooms are living in cities other than the one where they grew up, and it’s unrealistic to assume that the maid of honor who lives several states away will be able to plan a successful shower without the help of those nearer to the bride. So today, who hosts the shower comes down to who wants to host it; if others closer to the bride — like her aunts, her mom’s friends, or her coworkers — want to have a shower in her honor, that’s perfectly acceptable.
Typically, anyone invited to the shower will also be on the wedding guest list. The main reason behind this is that the bridal shower is a time for those close to the couple to share in their excitement for their upcoming nuptials — bridal shower attendees will be discussing the wedding and all the preparation going into the big day, so it would be incredibly uncomfortable to have individuals there who weren’t going to be invited to the wedding day festivities.
The only exception to this is in the case of an office shower. Coworkers may want to gather to celebrate the bride, but they may not all be invited to the wedding. An office shower should not include office staff who do not know the bride-to-be well, or anyone who feels coerced into participating.
Should You Register? How do You Relay that Information?
We think that brides and groom should always register! A bridal registry takes the guesswork out of selecting a gift, and is almost always truly welcomed by guests. Register early, at several different places, and for a wide range of gifts at various price points.
It is common knowledge that it is poor etiquette to reference your wedding registry on the save the date or wedding invitation, but when it comes to a shower, the rules are a little different. It is acceptable to include registry information with the shower invitations, but not written on them. The stores where you register will usually provide cards that are the perfect size to insert into the invitation’s envelope. You can also include a link to the couple’s wedding website, which often has information regarding their gift registries.
Gifts given at bridal showers used to be smaller tokens like fresh flowers or baked goods. These days, it is more common for guests to give the bride-to-be something of higher value — remember that if a shower guest brings something larger or from the bridal registry, they are not obligated to bring an additional gift to the wedding.
Mix Up the Guest List
If you’re having more than one shower, be sure that the guest lists are different. Close family members and the wedding party are almost always the only individuals who should be invited to more than one shower. Keep in mind that guests to more than one shower are still only obligated to give one gift.
Always, Always Say Thank You
Sending thank you notes is the number one rule of bridal shower etiquette! Brides, designate someone at the shower (typically the maid of honor) to take note of who gave which gift, and be prepared to get started on thank you notes right away. Enlist the groom to help! After all, he’s getting gifts as well — many showers these days are couples showers rather than bridal showers, where friends of both the bride and the groom are invited. Remember not to use the gifts until after the wedding date, in case plans change and they need to be returned.
Fresh Affairs is an award-winning florist located in Raleigh, NC. Owner Lyn Graves has made flowers his life’s passion – he set up his first wedding at age 9, and his portfolio now includes over 11,000 weddings and events in more than 14 states. Fresh Affairs has won more than 75 state and national design competitions, designed for the governor’s inauguration, President Clinton’s inauguration, and even been inducted into the North Carolina State Florist Association Hall of Fame.
Every year, Fresh Affairs hosts an event called Tabletop Extravaganza, where brides-to-be can explore many different options for floral tabletop designs and get inspired for their own wedding day. The Fresh Affairs Tabletop Extravaganza 2014 showcased several one-of-a-kind designs in a variety of styles. A fabulous team of vendors helped put together the amazing event, including: Party Reflections, Rocky Top Catering, Paper Café, Joe Bunn DJ Company, Lana Addison Bridal, Total Production Services, Ashley Cakes, and Heart Stone Films.
It’s Wedding Feature Wednesday at Southern Bride & Groom! Today, we’re excited to share Deniz and Robbie’s beautiful summer wedding at Duke Gardens in Durham, NC, with stunning photos from Joe Payne Photography.
Deniz and Robbie met during their morning commute from New Jersey into New York City. Robbie struck up a conversation and after exchanging emails, the two began talking. They later exchanged numbers, and have been inseparable ever since!
Two years after meeting, Robbie proposed to Deniz in Turkish while they took the very same bus to work. The couple planned a gorgeous summer wedding at Duke Gardens, with simple, elegant details. Since they were planning from afar, they wanted to choose vendors who were skilled in several areas. They selected Catering Works to provide their flowers, food, cake, and even party rentals. Deniz said that Kelli from Catering Works was “such a wonder! She made it so easy for me!”
The bride took inspiration from the beautiful gardens and from her wedding dress. Deniz’s grandmother is a tailor, and she said as soon as she put on the gown, it reminded her of dresses her grandmother sewed, so she wore it in homage of her, since she wasn’t able to attend the wedding.
Deniz and Robbie still live and work in New Jersey, but will be moving to Durham in May of this year.
Enjoy these stunning photos of Deniz and Robbie’s wedding day, courtesy of Joe Payne Photography.
Wedding Location: Duke Gardens
Bridal Gown: David’s Bridal
Bridesmaids Dresses: After Six by Dessy
Men’s Formalwear: Jos. A. Bank
Photographer: Joe Payne Photography
Florist: Catering Works
Caterer: Catering Works
Cake: Catering Works
Musicians: DJ Lenny Fritts
Party Rentals: Catering Works
On Thursday, February 20th, Charlotte’s at Cameron Village in Raleigh, NC hosted their annual bridal event. At the 2014 Bridal Event at Charlotte’s in Cameron Village, brides and grooms-to-be enjoyed treats from Sugarland, beautiful floral arrangements from Fresh Affairs, inspiration for their wedding day, and a special discount on all that Charlotte’s offers – from jewelry and wedding invitations to personalized gifts for every member of your wedding party.
Charlotte’s is a wonderful place to shop as an engaged bride. They have adorable clothes that would be perfect for any bridal shower or bachelorette party, custom personalized jewelry for you or your bridesmaids, gifts for your bridesmaids or groomsmen, and beautiful wedding stationery. Check out these photos from the 2014 Bridal Event at Charlotte’s in Cameron Village, shot by Renee Sprink Photography, and see what catches your eye!
Thanks to all of the vendors who helped with this event, and to all of the brides who turned out! Stay tuned to SB&G for updates on future bridal events.
Leading ladies and gentlemen gathered last night for the 2014 Oscar Awards. From daring silhouettes and vivid colors to jewel-encrusted sheaths and demure nudes, the stars rocked some of this season’s latest fashions.
Brides, if you fell in love with an Oscars look last night, don’t be afraid to find its match in bridal attire! Bridal fashion is more in sync with glamorous red carpet style than ever, so it’s not such a big leap from the runway to a unique, high fashion gown to wear down the aisle. Here are some of our 2014 Oscars fashion favorites.
Charlize Theron and Kate Hudson wore edgy silhouettes to the awards show. Charlize wore a fitted black Dior gown with a mermaid silhouette, chic neckline and elegant train. On the right, Kate wore a white Versace gown that evoked both old Hollywood glamour and contemporary style with its interesting, modern angles.
Cate Blanchett and Naomi Watts wore gowns that could easily be transitioned to bridal. Cate donned a gorgeous nude gown by Giorgio Armani. We adore the romantic illusion neckline and floral embellishments. Naomi wore an absolutely stunning jewel-encrusted white gown from the Calvin Klein collection.
Jennifer Lawrence and Lupita Nyong’o wore beautifully colored gowns at the awards show. Jennifer rocked an edgy peplum gown from Dior in a vibrant red – a color that has been making more and more appearances in bridal fashion – and Lupita wore a soft, light blue Prada gown, which would be perfect for a bride who wanted to wear a colored gown without going quite as loud as red.
The men shook things up on the red carpet as well, deviating from the standard-issue tuxes. Jared Leto wore an ivory tux by Saint Laurent topped with a red bowtie for a truly fresh new look.
Matthew McConaughey wore an ivory dinner jacket from Dolce and Gabbana, and Leonardo Dicaprio wore a dapper black tux, complete with a pocket silk.
What were you favorite fashions from the 2014 Oscar Awards?
As a bride, it’s natural to want to look your absolute best on your wedding day — aside from you and your soon-to-be husband, your wedding dress will be front and center on the big day. Finding the right gown is essential, but with with everyone having different body types and the abundance of dress styles on the market, it’s easy to get overwhelmed at the prospect of dress shopping.
Today, we’re breaking down the five most popular styles in a user-friendly wedding dress silhouette style guide so that you can get a grip on the industry’s terminology and figure out which look you like best before stepping into a bridal boutique to try on gowns! After all, the silhouette is the gown’s most prominent feature, and you want it to both flatter your shape and make you feel beautiful.
Check out the graphic below to determine what silhouette you believe suits you, and read further for an in-depth description of each style. Be sure to check out our previous post about wedding dress neckline styles, too!
An A-line, or princess gown, is fitted at the bodice and has vertical seams that flow out from the shoulder all the way to the ground in an unbroken line, creating a flared skirt that resembles an “A” shape. A modified A-line has a slightly more fitted skirt that a traditional A-line gown, giving you a more defined shape. A-line gowns are incredibly popular because they are almost universally flattering for every body type.
A ballgown is fitted at the bodice and features a (very!) full skirt that begins at the natural waist. It’s a very traditional wedding gown style — think Cinderella! Ballgowns are great for brides who are pear-shaped, as they highlight the waist and minimize the lower body.
A sheath dress is a sleek gown that fits very closely to the contours of the body. The narrow shape of the gown flows straight from the neckline to the hem with no defined waist, and is great for thin, silky fabrics and summery beach or destination weddings. Sheath gowns are for confident brides who want to show off their shape!
A mermaid gown fits closely to the body from the chest all the way to the knee and then flares out dramatically to the hem, resembling a fish tail. This silhouette is perfect for an elegant evening wedding or black tie affair. Mermaid gowns are a wonderful choice for brides with an hourglass figure who want to accentuate their curves.
Trumpet gowns fit closely to the body until mid-hip, where they then gradually widen to the hem, resembling the mouth of a trumpet. A trumpet gown features a tight bodice and a drop-waist, which highlights the bride’s every curve. The trumpet silhouette is often confused with the mermaid because each features a fitted bodice and flared skirt, but trumpet gowns flare from the hip while mermaid gowns flare from below the knee.
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