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These days, the rules of who pays for what when it comes to a wedding are a little more in the grey area than in years past…for quick and easy reference, SB&G has provided a short and sweet list of new wedding etiquette so you know what to expect from whom!
Old Wedding Etiquette Rules: Wedding and reception expenses for a first marriage were traditionally the sole responsibility of the bride’s family. When paying, they get to determine the size and style of the wedding and reception. The groom’s family my offer to share in the cost of the reception, and the bride’s family may accept in order to accommodate a larger wedding.
New Wedding Etiquette Rules: Both families may divide the expenses as their budget allows, or each family can contribute a set amount to the total expenses. This may be supplemented by the bride and groom. As the average age of couples rises for marriage, many working duos today host and pay for their entire wedding and celebration themselves, and issue the invitation for their personalized wedding on their own. For encore weddings, the couple is always responsible for the costs.
The Bride’s Family Pays for:
-Church and reception site rental
-Cake, catering and beverages for the reception
-Invitations, announcements and stationary
-Services of a wedding consultant
-The bridal attire and trousseau
-Photography for the engagements, bridal portraits, ceremony and reception
-Flowers for the church, reception and the bridesmaids
-Corsages for special helpers
-Music at the ceremony and reception
-Limousine for the bride and family to the church, and cars for transportation
-Lodging for out-of-town bridesmaids or arrangements with friends
-Security and insurance
The Groom or His Family Pay for:
-The bride’s engagement and wedding rings
-Officiant’s fee and travel expenses
-Bride’s bouquet and going-away corsage
-Corsages for the mothers and grandmothers
-Boutonnieres, gloves and ties for the men of the wedding party
-Wedding gift for the bride
-Limousine expense leaving reception — or for the day
-Wedding night accommodations
-Gifts for the best man and groomsmen
-Shipment of the wedding gifts to the couple’s home
-Lodging or arrangements for out-of-town groomsmen
-Groom’s wedding ring
-Gifts for the bride’s attendants
-Thank you gift for parents
-Bridesmaid’s luncheon (optional event)
-Engagement parties may be hosted by each set of parents or friends
-Groom’s family or engaged couple may co-host or host the entire wedding event
-The groom’s family or friends usually give the bachelor dinner or party
Who pays for what for a wedding might be just the first of many questions that come up when planning your day. Peruse our BLOG for other advice columns, and of course, lots of inspirational eye-candy!
If you are getting married in NC, we’d also love for you to check out our Preferred Vendors. SB&G has been the trusted wedding planning resource for our region for 30 years and has the most extensive VENUE GUIDE spanning from the NC Triad, across the Greater Triangle and to the Coast. Our region has great options for DESTINATION WEDDINGS too!
Nerea & Richard
Nerea and Richard are avid travelers and adventurers who envisioned a minimalist and simple wedding that shared their love of world traveling. The Merrimon-Wynne House in Raleigh, NC served as the picture perfect venue for the beautiful couple. The bride and groom chose a neutral pallet that could be easily mixed and matched in all aspects of their wedding decor and attire.
Nerea and Richard met through a cycling club. They were set up on a bike ride together and the rest is history! Richard proposed to Nerea on a rooftop terrace in Bosphorous in Istanbul, Turkey.
Their soft neutral color scheme meshed stunningly with the venue’s southern charm. The couple fell in love with The Merrimon-Wynne House and the bride shared “they were the utmost of professionals and made everything incredibly easy.”
Minimalist Neutral Wedding at The Merrimon-Wynne House
The bride wanted her bridesmaids to feel comfortable and let them pick their own dresses while staying in a neutral color palette. “I wanted my bridesmaids to have the ultimate choice and flexibility when choosing their dresses. It worked out wonderfully and they all looked gorgeous,” shared Nerea.
With their neutral theme the bride and groom chose natural film photographer, Casey Rose Photography. The bride said, “Casey is the best! She’s not only a gifted photographer, but I feel lucky enough to consider her a friend. She made everyone feel at ease and natural.”
Travel Enthusiast Wedding Reception
The couple are world travelers and seek out adventure in their lives and wanted to incorporate this passion within their wedding. They had their tables named after places they have visited and their seating chart was a world map showing their travels.
Nerea is currently a helicopter pilot in the Army and teaching at West Point and Richard serves in the Army Reserves while also working with a non-profit along the Hudson River. Thank you both for your service!
SB&G Preferred Vendors
Planner: Martha Stilwell | Minister: Father Gerry Blaszczak | Rehearsal Dinner: The Stag’s Head | Gown: Aire/Rosa Clara | Hair & Makeup: Liz Perniciaro | Invitations: E-Vites | Musicians: Bunn DJ Company
Check out our previous real wedding at The Merrimon-Wynne House!
Wedding Reception Inspiration
This hunting themed design by The English Garden uses rich garnet colors in the flower design and linens from Party Reflections. The bride wears a daring and darling two-piece gown from Alexia’s Bridal and poses with her riding gear. A vintage bracelet and ring form Bailey’s Fine Jewelry and a burberry styled menu from One + Only Paper add distinctive details.
This spectacular chandelier from Get Lit Special Event Lightning was adorned in complementary garnet florals to bring life to the pergola that stood above the inspirational table. A mixture of colored and textured glassware from Party Reflections perfectly pairs with the floral arrangements from The English Garden.
Embrace the romance of this wedding pergola repurposed as an intimate wedding party table on the verdant lawn of The Merrimon-Wynne House. The English Garden themed this glorious table with a hunting club stately ambiance including crystal and fine china accents. They added a surprise mix of cultivated and wild flowers in rusty reds, antique greens and golds.
One + Only Paper created a burberry styled menu that paired impeccably with the garnet colored linens and floral arrangements. The collection of textured and colored glass and fine china all meshed beautifully to create this hunting inspired theme.
The English Garden created a bountiful bridal bouquet that perfectly coincided with the floral decor of the table and venue. With rusty reds, wild flowers, and beautifully arranged green leaves, this bridal bouquet was a piece of living art.
The bride wore a beautifully unique two-piece gown from Alexia’s Bridal. The dress was a fun take on a classic wedding look. Paired with beautifully vintage pieces from Bailey’s Fine Jewelry, this look was everything and more!
SB&G Preferred Vendors
FLORAL DESIGN & CONTAINERS: The English Garden | PERGOLA & CHANDELIER: Get Lit Special Event Lighting | RENTALS OF CHAIRS, GLASSWARE, FLATWARE & LINEN: Party Reflections | GOWN: Alexia’s Bridal | THEMED CHINA & JEWELRY: Bailey’s Fine Jewelry | MENUS & PLACE CARDS: One + Only Paper | VENUE: The Merrimon-Wynne House | PHOTOGRAPHER: Katherine Miles Jones Photography
Allison & Broc
Allison and Broc met when they were 16 years old in the first and only class they would ever have together. Broc asked Allison to homecoming and 9 years later asked her to be his wife. With the help of all their wonderful vendors and a friend of the bride’s mother, their vision of a rustic-chic neutral wedding at Market Hall in Raleigh, NC came to life.
Broc had planned to propose one night while at his family’s house in Emerald Isle but got too nervous and held off until the next day. Allison and Broc had always talked about taking a romantic walk on the beach during the sunrise. Allison had woke up early one morning and Broc knew this would be a perfect opportunity to pop the question. He dropped down on one knee in the sand and proposed with a ring that was created from diamonds from both his Aunt and Mother’s rings.
The couple wanted a rustic-chic theme with the main colors being gray, sage green and peach. The bridesmaids wore long sage green Allure gowns paired with beautiful spring bouquets that had touches of pinks and peaches by Artfully Arranged. The groomsmen wore classic sharp navy suits and corresponding boutonnieres.
Ceremony at Sacred Heart Cathedral in Raleigh, NC
The couple went with natural light photography with Annie Watts Photography, who was assisted by Luxe and Pine Photography. Allison shared “She was amazing! She has such a calm spirit about her that seemed to deflect on me during the wedding day – and not to mention her pictures are flawless!”
Rustic-Glam Reception at Market Hall in Raleigh, NC
Allison said their main concern was they “wanted everyone to have fun!” They kept that thought in mind when choosing Market Hall in Raleigh, picking their food and beverage selection and their songs they wanted everyone to dance to.
Allison and Broc used Catering Works for their catering at their reception and were beyond happy with that decision. The bride said, “I couldn’t say enough about this company – working with them was honestly a life saver!” The couple also used Catering Works for their wedding cake. Their cake was a lemon base with lemon curd and almond butter that was lightly iced to give it a natural look to go with their theme.
SB&G Preferred Vendors
Photographer: Annie Watts Photography with assistant shooter from Luxe and Pine Photography | Rehearsal Dinner: Cafe Luna | Gown: Sottero and Midgely from Bridal Boutique of NC | Bridesmaids Dresses: Allure | Hair and Makeup: The Makeup Culture | Bridal Shoes: Nina | Bridal Jewelry: Etsy | Florist: Artfully Arranged | Invitations: Simply Paper Co | Reception Music: All Events DJ | Rentals: CE Rentals | Transportation: Smith Limousines
Dessert Table Inspiration
Floral Dimensions shows us the dramatic beauty that floral design can add to your dessert table, creating one of the most gorgeous décor elements of the room. These giant floral and greenery wreaths are hung above the table and visible from every direction. The yummy and lovely desserts will be anticipated by all and the presentation couldn’t be more delightful!
Sugar Euphoria, based in the Raleigh, NC area, is known for designing exquisite wedding cakes as well as custom dessert bars for your celebration. They created a beautiful array of cakes and treats for this naturally sweet dessert display!
Durham, NC based wedding florist, Floral Dimensions designed a hanging floral display with the help of Get Lit Special Event Lighting. Having an arrangement hanging above the table allowed the beautiful flowers and greenery to be viewed from anywhere in the room and really brought together the table as a place to mix and mingle while enjoying an array of desserts for the reception. They used a beautiful blush colored ribbon to hang the wreath floral arrangement which perfectly complimented the color scheme.
Floral Dimensions used fresh flowers to completely transform the desserts on the table. Each cake was draped and adorned with roses, vines and greenery that perfectly coincided with the floral arrangements in the hanging wreath as well as each vase.
The bridal bouquet was a thing of pure magic! Using the same florals that can be found all around the venue, Floral Dimensions created a bountiful collection of florals to compliment the bride’s tulle and lace Hayley Paige gown from Coastal Knot Bridal and stunningly elegant earrings from Bailey’s Fine Jewelry.
SB&G Preferred Vendors
FLORAL DESIGN: Floral Dimensions | SIGNS: Floral Dimensions Stationary Studio | DESSERTS: Sugar Euphoria | GLASSWARE, CHINA, & LINEN: American Party Rentals | WREATH BASE: Get Lit Special Event Lighting | GOWN: Hayley Paige from Coastal Knot Bridal | JEWELRY: Bailey’s Fine Jewelry | HAIR & MAKEUP: Bella Trio Day Spa | VENUE: The Merrimon-Wynne House | PHOTOGRAPHER: Katherine Miles Jones Photography
Summer Catering in NC
Summer is around the corner and wedding season is among us. That means finding the right seasonal fare to serve at your wedding! Depending where you are located, that could mean different things. We brought together some of our favorite local North Carolina caterers and are sharing some of the top Summer wedding catering trends!
If you are anywhere near the North Carolina coast you know that seafood is a must have. We have some of the best and freshest catches around! Donovan’s Dish shared with us this casual seafood boil that is sure to bring together any family. Having such an informal yet stunning way of presenting a classic meal is perfect for any North Carolina bride and groom!
Seafood Fine Dining
In the other spectrum is a more traditional presentation of a classic seafood meal. Parizade put a mediterranean spin on this seafood dish and made a summer dish just that much more summery. For the bride and groom that doesnt want to get their fingers dirty, this option is just what you are looking for!
Rocky Top Catering transformed a cold weather dish, curry, into a Summer favorite. They created an amazing shrimp curry to go with the season and accented it with bright colors to perfectly blend in with a Summer wedding. You can easily turn any dull dish into a bright plate with the help of some sauces or seasonal flowers.
Sliders are no new trend, but pulling together colorful sliders like these pork belly, portobello and crab cake bites from Southern Harvest Catering, give a non exciting dish a Summer overhaul. Using vegetables that are in season and fresh only grow your guests hunger when they see them coming around at your wedding!
Salads are a common item on the wedding menu. Spice things up by having a not-so-traditional type of salad. Catering Works created this frisee salad with a shrimp cocktail and pistachio vinaigrette. Not only is it aesthetically beautiful, it is the perfect light Summer dish.
Oysters are really hitting their stride right now. New oyster bars are popping up left and right and we just can’t get enough of them! Rocky Top Catering took their oyster presentation to a new level with these oysters in 6 different ways. These are perfect for cocktail hour at any formal wedding. You can also have raw oysters for a more casual reception.
Photography by Riley MacLean Photography
Amber & Deon
Amber & Deon may be traveling the world, but they returned to the state their love began, North Carolina, to exchange vows in front of their loved ones. With the help of Nouveau Events, the couple was able to create a unique yet intimate setting for their guests at Graylyn Estate. With blushes, golds, creams and a pop of rose gold, the wedding was a feminine fairytale, which was fitting since their relationship is a true fairytale romance.
Amber and Deon met in an English class at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. After two years of friendship they began dating and seven years later Deon popped the question.
Deon, a starter on the 2009 National Championship Tar Heels basketball team, has been playing professional abroad since college. Amber has been along with him for this exciting ride as he has played in Europe, China, Israel, and now Istanbul. These world travelers were on a vacation to Zanzibar, Tanzania, when Deon proposed and they embarked on their biggest adventure yet!
Although this bride is a natural planner, she was beyond pleased that she chose to enlist Nouveau Events as her coordinator. She told us that, “Monica is an exquisite wedding planner and an even better person. She handled all the unnecessary tasks that I did not need to worry about on my wedding day, and helped bring my wedding together like the perfect bow on a present.”
“From the moment I met Brandon from Southern Love Studios, I knew I made the right choice for a wedding photographer. He is an amazing artist with a keen eye,” expressed Amber.
Stunningly Unique NC Outdoor Ceremony
Amber and Deon’s friend and pastor from their time living in Jerusalem held the honor of marrying the couple. It meant the world to them to have friends from coast to coast in the U.S., as well as from the other side of the world, in one setting to witness their love and spiritual faith in God.
Old Estate Home Reception
The guests experiences different nooks of the castle-like Graylyn Estate as they moved from the garden for the ceremony to various rooms indoor for cocktails, dining, and dancing. They even utilized a balcony for the cake cutting.
SB&G PREFFERED VENDORS
Rehearsal Dinner: Fratelli’s| Videographer: Indatainment Media Consultants | Bridal Gown: Traditions by Anna, Matthew Christopher Gown | Bridesmaids’ Dresses: Rent the Runway, Badgley Mischka | Men’s Formalwear: Calvin Klein | Florist: Green Bee Floral Designs | Cake: Regi Originals | Invitations & Wedding Papers: Wedding Paper Divas | Ceremony Musicians: Elegant Ensembles | Reception Music: (live or DJ) K9 Productions | Transportation: Fantasy Limo | Hair & Makeup: Updo’s Studio | Wedding Favors: BeauCoup and One Stop Wine Shop | Bridal Registry: Crate & Barrel, Target
Art in Bloom 2017
Every year the North Carolina Museum of Art holds it Art in Bloom event to support the NCMA Foundation. Art in Bloom allows both local floral artists to showcase their talent and creativity and also for the public to have the opportunity to view all of these amazing artists in one place.
Every year the event features over 50 floral interpretations of art in the Museum’s permanent collection. The NCMA became a fragrant garden for all to enjoy over the Art in Bloom weekend. In addition, this year the event featured the Horti-Couture Fresh Flowers Fashion on Stage, a live fashion show that displayed the floral art in action.
The English Garden created this bride inspired wearable art. The quilt signifies the joining of families and has orchids woven within the fabric. The English Garden paired the quilt with a Tahitian inspired headpiece with leaves and orchids and completed the look with a matching bridal bouquet.
The floral artists tool the audience on a journey of fashion inspired by Tahitian elements such as volcanoes, water and birds. The fashion show also reflected various events – they hosted not only wedding scene, but had other sections including everything from beach-ware to formal attire. The creativity by these florists was astounding, and these designs can be admired and used for inspiration for anything from tropical themed weddings, to vibrant household decor.
NCMA transformed its gallery into an array of living art when over 50 pieces from their collection were inspirations for creations by local floral artists.
Bloom Works created this spectacular arrangement that was inspired by Double Jar with Central Handle. They used curly willow to recreated the jars and filled it with an array of spray button mums amongst other florals and leaves.
Each florist was assigned a painting or sculpture from NCMA’s permanent collection, and their design was inspired by that artwork. Some florists took the art literally (like English Garden’s dress design below) and others are more subtle interpretations that reflect the colors, textures, and movement of the inspirational piece. Below, at left, a design by SB&G preferred florist, Eclectic Sage. At right, designed by La Residence – an SB&G preferred venue – a fine French Restaurant in Chapel Hill, that has an onsite floral garden (which they use for onsite weddings).
The Torso of Aphrodite inspired this work of art by Bowerbird Flowers and Apothecary. With flowers like roses, spirea, tulips, calla lillies and many more, their floral arrangement flourished with colors and textures – creating an absolute masterpiece.
On the left Bloom Works also created this cascading floral art installation that was inspired by the untitled work by Joel Elias Shapiro at NCMA. They used escheveria, aloe, equisetum, typha, umbrella papyrus and allium to tie this piece of art together.
The spectacular floral dress was created by non other than The English Garden in Raleigh, NC. Magnolia, peonies, hydrangea and roses were amongst the blooms used to create this one-of-a-kind exquisite piece of art. Frames with ancestors were hung around the dress to take the viewer on a historical journey through time.
Thank you to our wonderful photographer f8 Photo Studios. Cara Galati is an SB&G Preferred wedding photographer based in Raleigh, and we had a blast exploring this exhibit with her!
Jenna & Christian
Jenna and Chris welcomed their family to their home to celebrate their beautifully subdued nautical wedding in Nags Head, NC. The bride and groom opted to forgo a color theme and go with a natural nautical look. With light blush, cremes and grays, the wedding party perfectly complimented the stunning coast line around them.
Christian didn’t waste any time calling Jenna after she gave him her number at the gym one day. The phone rang that night and kick-started their seven-year relationship before Christian proposed at the end of their first ultramarathon together, on the JFK 50 mile.
There was a subdued rustic nautical look to the wedding, which took place along the gorgeous coastline of the Outer Banks. Jenna and Christian were excited to share their home of Nags Head with their friends and families – including the groom’s nine siblings. Guest rented houses the week of the wedding so they could spend extra time celebrating.
Sarah D’Ambra Photography complimented this beautiful couple with her unique eye and ability to catch the the bride and groom in genuine moments. Jenna described Sarah D’Ambra Photography as “a fun and creative team of sisters with laid back personalities.”
The bride glowed in her Maggie Sottero gown next to her dapper groom in a Vera Wang tux. Groomsmen were dressed in grey suits to compliment the bridemaids’ light pink Novelle Amsale dresses.
Jenna and Christian both love Jennette’s Pier and knew it was their first choice to join in marriage. Jenna described it as “a perfect venue.” Decorations did not have to be extravagant because it is beautiful inside and offers a scenic outside deck view of the Atlantic Ocean. “We tried to look at other venues, however, there was no comparison!”
SB&G Preferred Vendors:
Coordinator: Brenda Ziegler | Rehearsal Dinner and Caterer: Lone Cedar Basnights | Ceremony: Holy Trinity by the Sea | Minister: Father Luis Rodriguez | Bridal Gown: Maggie Sottero from Poffie Girls | Bridal Shoes: Jack Rogers | Bridesmaid’ Dresses: Nouvelle Amsale – Nordstrom | Florist: Sugar Snap Events | Cake: Atlantic Cakes | Ceremony Music: John Buford | Reception Music: John Harper | Party Rentals: Ocean Atlantic Rentals, Beer Nanny | Hair: Hot Heads
Athina & Graham
Romance was in the air for this beaming couple on their wedding day at Market Hall in Raleigh, NC. While Athina and Graham didn’t want to have a “theme” at their wedding, they knew they wanted to keep things simple and romantic. With blush, gold and cream tones, their wedding, planned by Sally Oakley Wedding & Events, was beyond stunningly romantic.
Athina and Graham met as interns and knew immediately there was something special about their relationship. After about 3 years Graham proposed as they were walking into the Angus Barn to celebrate their anniversary.
Getting Ready For Wedding at Market Hall
Some of the best photographs from a wedding are catching true emotion from the bride and groom. When asked what the bride’s favorite moment was she shared, “our first look when we got to see each other for the first time before the ceremony and share in that moment just the two of us.”
The couple went with an airy and romantic photography style by Missy of Missy Loves Jerry Photography. The bride said, “We absolutely loved working with Missy and Jerry! Their warm and positive personalities made us feel very comfortable in front of the camera and they captured some beautiful moments of our wedding day!”
Blush & Navy Wedding Party
Romantic Ceremony at Market Hall
Blush and Cream Infused Wedding Reception at Market Hall
The bride had one must have request, “I was dead-set on having my favorite bakery make our wedding cake!” She got her wish and Maxie B’s created a beautifully elegant white and floral cake for their special day. Their wedding was completed with personalized cookies by Sweet Stuff by Meredith for all of the guests.
Athina and Graham worked with Sally Oakley Wedding & Events for their special day. “Sally was phenomenal to work with. She was super energetic and fun while also being very organized in order to make sure our wedding day ran seamlessly,” said Athina.