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New Wedding Etiquette – Who Pays For What?

These days, the rules of who pays for what when it comes to a wedding are a little more in the grey area than in years past…for quick and easy reference, SB&G has provided a short and sweet list of new wedding etiquette so you know what to expect from whom!

Old Wedding Etiquette Rules: Wedding and reception expenses for a first marriage were traditionally the sole responsibility of the bride’s family. When paying, they get to determine the size and style of the wedding and reception. The groom’s family my offer to share in the cost of the reception, and the bride’s family may accept in order to accommodate a larger wedding.

New Wedding Etiquette Rules: Both families may divide the expenses as their budget allows, or each family can contribute a set amount to the total expenses. This may be supplemented by the bride and groom. As the average age of couples rises for marriage, many working duos today host and pay for their entire wedding and celebration themselves, and issue the invitation for their personalized wedding on their own. For encore weddings, the couple is always responsible for the costs.Who Pays for What in a Modern Wedding Engagement Ring photo by Jamie Blow
The Bride’s Family Pays for:

The Groom or His Family Pay for:

The Bride:

  • Groom’s wedding ring
  • Groom’s gift
  • Gifts for the bride’s attendants
  • Thank you gift for parents
  • Bridesmaid’s luncheon (optional event)

Other Expenses:

  • Engagement parties may be hosted by each set of parents or friends
  • Groom’s family or engaged couple may co-host or host the entire wedding event
  • The groom’s family or friends usually give the bachelor dinner or partySouthern bride and Groom Modern NC wedding by Jamie Blow Photography

Who pays for what for a wedding might be just the first of many questions that come up when planning your day. Peruse our BLOG for other advice columns, and of course, lots of inspirational eye-candy!

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